To me, manifesting comes down to one thing and one thing only – focus. Earlier this year, when I first learned about Neville’s teachings, I spent hours on Youtube trying out a million different techniques and trying way too hard. Only after I found this website and was coached by Jennifer (the best Neville Goddard coach ever), did I realize how simple it indeed was.
I would spend hours on Youtube, then hours trying to manifest but kept focusing on what I didn’t want. After all these hours of trying different techniques, I would end up on social media checking to see if the techniques had worked yet.
As Jennifer has stated before, when you water a plant and give it attention, it grows. But when you stop watering the plant and give it no attention, it dies. And for a very long time, I was watering a third party, and of course, all it did was grow.
The moment I realized where my focus had truly been placed, I said to myself: I am done. I am done placing my focus on what I don’t desire. I committed myself that day, and I declared to myself that I would never waver again, no matter what I was faced with, because I knew that I was stronger and more powerful than whatever dead thing was in front of me.
At first it was hard, I’m not going to lie. I still thought about the third party a lot. But I wasn’t afraid of my thoughts anymore, nor would I get mad at them or worry. Instead, I would laugh about it and be like “this doesn’t even matter anymore because I already changed my assumptions, and that is the only thing that is real”. And as Jennifer has stated before, assumptions are built from what you are focused on.
Every time I felt the urge to check social media, which at first I felt a lot, I stopped myself. Instead of being in question mode trying to find out something from the dead world outside, I would switch over to answer mode because I am God, and I already have all the answers.
When I felt this urge, I would declare to myself that they were gone, that they did not exist anymore, and that my specific person was mine and only mine. Slowly as the days went by, the urge to check the 3D world just vanished. I had stopped watering the plant.
Before this, everyone mentioned her to me. I would be talking to a random friend, and all of a sudden she would be like, “oh, did you see what she posted?”. I would be on social media, and she would pop up randomly on mutual friends’ pages. Because, of course, my focus was on her and what you focus on manifests, as well as other things in its likeness.
Less than two weeks after I had told myself that she was gone, she was actually gone. I had continued to live my life and go on social media, but I had stopped checking up on her and giving her attention. I never once saw her again or heard anything about her again. I had stopped watering that plant, and it died and ceased to exist in my reality.
So every time you catch yourself giving attention to something you do not want in your reality, whether that may be a person, traits about a person or just anything, realize that you are watering it and allowing it to grow. The moment you take your attention away from it, it has no choice but to die. Instead, spend your time placing your focus on the things you do want to manifest and the good things you have already manifested. They deserve to be watered so that they can grow.
35 Comments
Diamond
December 14, 2019 at 7:47 PMGreat article!!! ☺️ I have one question, I live with a 3rd party and I see them almost everyday, so I was wondering how do I send them send them off permanently (in a positive way) while not focusing on them? cause I’m homeschooled so I have to see them. Any tips?
Carolina
December 15, 2019 at 8:39 AMI would make the assumption that they are gone & every time I would see them, I would remind myself that this is the dead world, it’s old & not real. That you already made your assumption & you know they’re on their way already because your assumption is more real anyways.
Terry
December 15, 2019 at 3:36 PMThank you for sharing this. I also found it helpful to know that there are no others, and once we declare our desires and realize this, everyone else in reality conforms to bring us our desires.
I love this simple article!
Carolina
December 16, 2019 at 1:17 AMLove this comment! That is indeed super helpful & simple! 🙂
Thais
December 16, 2019 at 11:05 AMEstou simplesmente encantada com este site! Os artigos são excelente, inclusive este, achei sensacional. Lembrá-los sempre que não existem os outros, existe somente você! Jennifer é sensacional em nos traduzir Neville de uma forma tão brilhante.
David
December 15, 2019 at 2:06 AMSo what was it that you were focusing on that you didn’t want? That wasn’t clear to me from reading the article.
Carolina
December 15, 2019 at 8:36 AMI was stalking her on social media, etc. I was simply acknowledging her existence.
Thais
December 16, 2019 at 11:11 AMParabéns Carolina, pelo depoimento, é verdade, tudo o que colocamos o foco aumenta, cresce. É preciso foco e prática para mudar a nossa visão de mundo, assim como você tem feito. Eu gosto muito de ler depoimentos como o seu, são inspiradores!
Brenda
July 6, 2020 at 11:52 AMIs it possible to not manifest that the 3rd party disappear physically just that any romantic/relationship feelings for my SP no longer exist and that my SPs romantic feelings for them no longer exist? Friends only.
I’m in a situation where the 3rd party is one of my SPs roommates with her child (not his bio, only Godfather). I actually like her from what I know of her and adore the child. 3rd party does have a boyfriend right now.
Laura
December 20, 2019 at 8:15 AMI stopped stalking a year ago. Anytime she comes to mind I say it’s over, she left etc. I just found out she moved in.
Carolina
December 20, 2019 at 7:16 PMWhen you have been working on something & persisting on what you want for a while and something opposite comes about, that is the God within you giving you the chance to break a cycle forever. I learned this from coaching with Jennifer. At that moment when you’re faced with opposition, it is the perfect opportunity to end it once & for all. Persist in the face of circumstances, do not settle for less, you are God & you are in control of it all.
david breslow
December 22, 2019 at 11:35 AMAnd once you learned that from Jennifer what did you actually do to get rid of it forever?
Carolina
December 22, 2019 at 11:13 PMJennifer taught me that when faced with opposition in the 3d, you have two choices. 1. React, revert back to the victim reality or 2. Persist in what you want in the face of circumstances. Manifesting really is simple, all you literally have to do is focus on what you want & persist in it, that alone will see you through.
Marie
January 3, 2020 at 6:44 PMHow do you take your attention away from it once and for all? I’ve been trying for months, but with no contact or social media, my thoughts have been assuming the worst… I have no idea if my person is still with the 3p, but they have also not reached out. I KNOW I can’t do this, but I have not been able to fully take my attention away. I’ve been tempted to look at social media (he is muted), but I know that either way I won’t feel better. What can help?
Danubiacska
April 15, 2020 at 8:29 AMHello.
My only question is that what do you do if you manifested your fear, that is the third party being pregnant? I can see that, she should thank it to me, the feeling of being pregnant, but how do I unmake it? Ist that sg that is not moral ot ethic?
Kitty
July 19, 2021 at 11:12 AMHi, what ended up happening? I’m in the same situation
Kimm
October 1, 2022 at 12:21 PMI wish I would have seen this last year. I would have advised you to revise the whole situation. Make it so it never even happened. Hoping this year has been one of learning and growing!
Carolina
January 3, 2020 at 8:38 PMWhen you begin to have negative thoughts or assumptions you have two options, either you perpetuate it or you stop yourself & declare your preference. Tell yourself that your person is already yours, they are already faithful & loyal to you, & you are the only woman in the world for him! Persist in that story only!
maria
January 19, 2020 at 1:53 PMhow long until the 3rd party was indefinitely gone? and you were able to manifest your SP back?
Carolina
January 19, 2020 at 10:36 PMAbout 2 weeks! And yes I already manifested him! I’m working on another success story article about him right now. 🙂
Susie
March 6, 2020 at 6:22 PMI love this article and your response to comments. It helps me a lot.
The third party in my life is his best friend who doesn’t like him interacting with me and she has been putting pressure on him not to speak to me and give her all the attention when the three of us are out together. It’s like she feels she knew him first so he belongs to her. Bad luck! I have claimed him and when she’s not around he is very into me. We are not lovers yet but it is heading that way. Do you have any advice given that situation because she is right there with him in front of my eyes when we meet?
Maria Belara
March 11, 2020 at 10:23 AMHey folks and powerful manifestors 🙂
I have made major progresses with my SP; i manifested him last year and pushed him away to his ex – and so much more.. you have no idea!
He spends still some time with his ex (because of an abortion she feels sad) and it is okay even, i do not care at all, i honestly even asked often how she feels and how her condition is – i know he loves me!
i am annoyed by now asking myself when we have the time together again like last year (i really cut off my impatience but it is getting harder now). not to mention we are 7.000km LDR, we have two different home countries!
What i have a problem with and struggle with: he overworks a lot, i know that, that is an issue since last year (cause i was afraid of a burnout, as i have suffered this from work and he works even more than i did).
in the past, in the beginning, he treated my like his princess during all the days and weeks, distant and on site and of course i treated him also the same way, always good. he introduced me to his entire family telling his parents that i am the one and so much more – it was perfect all over. we are meant to be.
(i got to mention last year i worked a lot on myself and had a good confidence and less inner insecurities, when i met him).
when i visited him last year for several weeks and the last days of the visit my insecurities came through and i knew i would be missing him so much because of the LDR (before the last days everything was perfect and i have LDR experience, but he is “the one” and it was hard to think about missing him) and i sometimes freaked out 🙁 because of his job and how much they use him (we work in the same company so i know how it goes..)..
he told me after that, that when he is overwhelmed with work (what he is) he withdrawls. okay – but we are LDR – and it worked perfectly before – okay, maybe he did not have that much stress but a very lot already.
he rarely takes time for me now.. he still spends some time with the ex like i said but like in the past he does not call me or text me often throughout the day. it hurts me so much.
we sometimes go days without texting and talking. that was the thing he freaked out and broke up, cause i hurt him when i said “if you are not able to communicate, we can break up or keep it casual” – so i do not want to say this again.. i know he needs me-time, like i do a lot also – but IMO conversation is important – it was before for him also, for us. he could never wait to see me, and even some weeks ago i knew he craved seeing me. we had our first video and i SEE literally how much he loves me but then he goes silent, when i “start over” being normal and cute – i leave the past completely behind and do not confront him at all.
the craziest progress i did when i let go, cause i thought he would stay there
he started with this again 2 weeks ago from time to time and i was so happy. it was super cute. just with funny things and pet names but super cute. i knew he loved me still, even i had some doubts from time to time.
2 weeks ago he came up all of the sudden a text message how much he loves me and misses me (he hasnt said that for like 6 weeks because of the crazy situation we went through and he had with his ex).
he wrote he really loves me even though he is not sure if he is worthy of these feelings (he had a problem in the past and was happy that he met me and has allowed himself to be happy again after years and wanted to marry me and planned a family).
but since then, he never wrote it again, he said it once in the video.
back then: he did not stop telling me this several times a day. always telling me i am the love of his life.
i know he loves me – but it breaks my heart that he is distancing himself from me so much.
telling it is work.
after all what i have achieved with manifesting (scripting, living in the end, i remember when, looping, affirmations over and over) – i am so happy and confident.
but currently i am so tired. i just want him back – i would rather tell him “i really want you, but its both of us who need to invest” – but i know about everyone is you pushed out.
any suggestion for me?
i could just cry and i am tired.
thank you all!! ♥
Maria Belara
(sorry for my English, i am not native, being from Guatemala)
Ilaria
April 29, 2020 at 6:54 AMHi dear! First of all remember who you really are: the goddess of your amazing reality! I know what does it feels to be tired and wanting to give up. I can clearly see a limiting belief here: ” I really want you, BUT it’s both of us who needs to invest”. You know what? You already are in this amazing and joyful relationship with your SP, he loves you, he cherishes you with all his love and his presence, he wants to be with you all the time, 24/24 7/7. Your SP is just playing the role you assumed for him, the solution? Assume there’s no more distance between you and him.
He’s just waiting for you to allow this amazing connection, just because everyone is you pushed out.
Hope this can help you and don’t worry about your English, I’m Italian! : )
Kelly
April 25, 2020 at 6:19 PMThis article has given me so much hope. Thank you.
NESSA
September 23, 2020 at 11:55 PMcarolina espero TUS ARTICULOSS detu sp
Chelsea
October 23, 2020 at 7:55 PMHi everyone! Thank you all for sharing. I was wondering if anyone had additional affirmations that they use to help a 3rd party leave? I know we don’t want to wish them any negativity, so I just wanted to see what others use. Thank you!
Asjha
November 10, 2020 at 2:36 PMI am the only one my SP wants. My Sp is in love with me. I am committed to my Sp. I have a loving relationship with my Sp. My SP loves me unconditionally.
Rk
April 11, 2021 at 10:03 AMHi, read your article and trust me it some way gave me hope and I don’t know what to do I never water third party but my sp is always talking about her and I can see that he is having inclination towards her… And I am really tired trying all loa methods , pls help.
Liz
July 4, 2021 at 7:19 PMUnless I missed something, it doesn’t sound like the third party was removed from your specific person’s life, but that the social media algorithm adjusted to not show her accounts anymore in response to you not checking up on them.
Carolina
July 5, 2021 at 11:09 AMIt’s been years since I wrote this article lol I am still with my SP & she has never been seen/heard from again. ?
bibi
August 16, 2021 at 5:36 PMI struggle with positive thinking as far as i am concerned. I have alot of negative thoughts about myself about my worthiness especially compared to this 3rd party. I had a Narcissitic parent which i believe is why i struggle with a negative inner voice. In addition my breakup with my SP was a very long one and ended badly. But after i got through my depression i saw how i could improve myself and how he had changed. BUT when i finally realized this there was a 3rd party involved and shes extrememly maniupulative and seems to get him to think negatively towards me and he believes shes nearly perfect. BUT its all a facade to just get me out of thepicture. Which happens to be working thus far. I had given up til i found this post. How can i overcome this so i can manifest my SP back?
N.
August 25, 2021 at 4:03 PMThanks, after 7 months of manifestation and knowing it is done, feeling so close to it coming I just found out my SP (now not an ex, but a new person I want to meet and be with) they have been with someone all along for years. Trying not to react but after spending 7-8 months invested in this, seeing signs and synchronicities that I couldn’t ignore no mater how hard I tried……well o feel crushed, foolish and disappointed in this happening this way. I basically broke my own heart for nothing. I will start a new story and see if I can still make this come true. I can’t fathom why this is….it makes no sense at all with all the knowing and signs and synchronizations. Should I keep persistent or just let it go? It took so much anergy from me and I just feel exhausted, I literally felt we were going to be together right around p the corner and then this.
A girl madly in love
January 8, 2022 at 12:29 AMMy SP was in a relationship with another of our colleague. One day we both got to know that he was in a dual relationship. But still I am third party kept fighting over him. And he kept saying he cannot choose one because both of us are special to him. But then due to some circumstances I asked him to confront her and tell her that he cannot talk to her anymore. He says he did. Now we 3 are working at different places. And he says he doesn’t talk to her only if there’s some work they talk. Though he hasn’t told her that he has continued his relationship with me. But he says they don’t talk anymore. But I still think that they talk. And now because her father passed away, he is again helping her overcome her grief or even she shares her pain and other things with him. He says he is just helping her overcome and nothing more than that.
Am trying hard to convince myself. But now I want to manifest her out of our lives like a complete no contact situation. Also my family is not accepting out relationship. So basically I want our families to accept our relationship and we marry each other and want this third party to leave us completely and we live happily ever after.
Can you please help me with a powerful manifestation affirmation that will help me fulfill my both the wishes.
Jasmin
April 13, 2022 at 7:22 AMHi I desperately need some advice I was doing amazing shifting to my desired reality where I’m with sp but then yesterday I saw the 3p is still in the picture and she’s still pregnant (due any day now). I thought it was working and I was doing amazing and she wasn’t pregnant anymore and was gone. I would flip thoughts and keep changing the story to me and sp. I don’t know what to do. I feel like there’s a small time limit as well now. I feel like giving up but part of me wants to keep going. (Also sp and I slept together twice in feb)
Leslie pierce
November 22, 2023 at 7:50 AMAny update? And i honestly think its because u keep changing the story also when manifesting under any circumstances do u pay attention or check the 3d