No One To Change But Self

My article will be about how I managed to transform my dad and my brother into loving people around me. Initially it was without Neville’s knowledge, but looking back I can see that I am God and how I brought it about.

I grew up in a household that was filled with psychological violence. My parents argued non-stop and as long as I can remember there were no loving moments between the two. My brother and I eventually adopted my parents’ behavior. He behaved like my father and told me how bad I was. I started feeling like a victim and like all people, especially men, were bad in my opinion.

If someone was good to me, I couldn’t accept it and always expected to lose loving people from my life. Guess what happened, I went through a separation at the time.

To make it clear again, my daily bread was “You can’t do it anyway, you do this and that wrong, you’re stupid, etc.” I was always accused of giving my parents and brother a bad life because, after all, I was always to blame. For decades I’ve struggled to change my brother and my dad. I argued with them and broke contact with them. I ended up doing everything I could, literally exhausting myself, and in the end I came to the conclusion that they were just as they are.

Then I realized that people aren’t always the same. When other people would tell me how great and loving my dad is, I usually thought that my dad was pretending to be so. But it wasn’t like that, he responded to other people’s expectations.

Everything changed for me and I could see how I was the trigger of everything. Everything came from me, every interpretation, every person’s behavior had all come from me. 

I apparently noticed subconsciously that I am God!

I have to say that I can hardly summarize what exactly I did. Only that I have recognized who I am and I do not have to put up with anything. Also that I do not need discussions to change people, because it literally only needs ME.  

As Neville said:

“Stop trying to change the world since it is only the mirror. Man’s attempt to change the world by force is as fruitless as breaking a mirror in the hope of changing his face. Leave the mirror and change your face. Leave the world alone and change your conceptions of yourself.” 

Neville Goddard

I began to see myself and others around me in a loving light. It was pointless to argue. I just let it flow, even if it took a month or two at the beginning in which the two still accused or insulted me.  

I neither visualized nor used any other technique because I didn’t know any of Neville’s teachings at the time.  

I changed and everything changed with me.

As soon as an argument came up, I took a deep breath and reminded myself that it was pointless to take part and that nothing could hurt me.

At that point, I didn’t care if my dad and brother changed, because I knew I had myself and I didn’t need more. I didn’t fight it any longer. Despite the incidents, my mood was always positive. I was fine no matter what happened and nobody could influence that. Today I see that I “ignored” my reality and stuck to who I was and how I would like to be treated by the people around me.

Suddenly out of nowhere, my dad said “I love you.” I have to admit that it was weird at first, but since I loved myself I could accept it and feel it.

And how is it now?

My dad and my brother adore me, they do everything for me without having to ask them. They have become so loving and such great people. I enjoy them every day. I always hear how great I am, I do everything well, that I am smart and beautiful. Arguments no longer exist.

And when something bad comes up, an apology comes immediately, although I don’t expect it. We love each other more than ever.

What do I do now since knowing of Neville?

I do nothing special. When I feel like it, I write “I AM statements” in a book in the evening and feel good about it.

• I AM Love 

• I AM loved

• I AM GOD

• I love myself

• Everything is working out

• Everyone loves me 

• etc..

Throughout the day I remember who I am and that there are no problems. 

Of course I ask myself questions, such as how am I responsible for everything like my parents’ behavior with each other or something similar. But then I remember that it is in my consciousness that my parents do not love each other, and then I have my answer to my question. 

“Man moves in a world that is nothing more or less than his consciousness objectified.“

Neville Goddard

It is important to mention that I do not force myself to do anything, neither to try out any techniques nor to understand any books from Neville. I think that the feelings of the wish fulfilled comes naturally with the understanding of who you really are.

All of my relationships are wonderful, whether at home, at work or with my friends. It doesn’t matter, everyone loves and appreciates me. Above all, I love myself more than ever because I know that I am God, I do everything right and everything is good.

“Man is always looking for some prop on which to lean. He is always looking for some excuse to justify failure. This revelation gives man no excuse for failure. His concept of himself is the cause of all the circumstances of his life. All changes must first come from within himself; and if he does not change on the outside it is because he has not changed within.”

Neville Goddard

Remember “NO ONE TO CHANGE BUT SELF”.

About The Author

 “Krissi is a passionate woman with a message that she wants to spread around the world. She is an author and of course abundant in all the beautiful things in life.”